28 April 2022

January-April 2021: Planning, and planning, with extra planning sauce

The first 1/3 of 2021 was a never-ending homage to proper planning.  Plus circumventing chaos.  Plus masses of change.

Sidebar:

I was just checking that proper planning quote, and I notice how it transitions from the original 7P's, to 6P's, to 5P's.  I seem to know and prefer a different 7 P's than the official 7 P's.  I know "proper prior planning prevents piss poor performance".  The web tells me that the original is a British Army saying that "proper planning and preparation prevents piss poor performance".  I think that the addition of the word "and" ruins the lovely alliteration.  The 6 and 5 P versions clean up the language a bit.  Not important, but there you are.

First, a cat.

Oreo is always quite photogenic, don't you think?

Planning:

We needed to, in these 4 months:
- Find a house to buy in Toronto, without leaving California, and within a certain school's boundaries, and less than a 10 minute walk from a subway.  That turned out to be difficult.
- Sort out financing for said house, when neither W or I had a work contract for Canada, and the California house wasn't going to be sold until after we already moved out.
- Start immigration process to get Mona her permanent residence
- Figure out how to arrange the moving truck, as it takes 1 week for the furniture to move, but we have to be in quarantine for 2 weeks, and William has to personally sign for the shipment out at the airport, which shockingly can't be done when one is in quarantine.
- Purge our house of crap
- Find a moving company
- set up a bank account, even though the Canadian banks don't like to do that without you physically walking into a branch office
- Find and set up a real estate agent for prepping and selling the California house.
- Start preparing the house for sale, termite inspections, new garage door, etc.

....and.... we did all that, and then some.

Photos:  

Ria and I taking walks in the rain                                  ....and more of William's hot cross buns!


Chaos:

Meanwhile
- In mid December we plonked the car in for service, and it didn't come back to us until January.  Luckily it was all covered by the insurance, including the weeks of replacement rental - although that saga didn't play itself out fully until the June-September installment.
- Oreo stopped being willing to take her meds, so the peeing started again, and we went on round 2 (3?) of sorting out how to make her not pee on the house.  It involved drugging her to the gills again, but we did get it sorted out with a minimum of peeing.
- Ria managed to severely twist her ankle, and it took months for the swelling to come down.

Photos: 
Ria with her sprained ankle elevated                              Oreo melting off the side of William's lap





Also, some things get better:

- Somewhere in there Jade got all of her university applications out, and despite the fact that we never did manage to schedule an SAT or ACT without having it cancelled on us, she was accepted to several really good Canadian Comp Sci universities.  The world got better with that.
- Somewhere in there Jade figured out that she is, in fact, Jade.  She told us in April.  The world got better with that.
- Somewhere in there vaccines became available, and we got vaccinated.  The world got better with that.
- Somewhere in there the schools started allowing part-time in person school.  Ria declined.  Jade started 1/2 time, just for Freestyle classes, mid-April.  The world got better with that.

Photos:
William just looking cute                                                       Me and Fauci, at my Fauci Ouchie!

It was a hard 4 months, especially for Jade, but we got to the end of them in a much better place than we started.  I don't really need/want to mention the political and social angst of Jan 6th and its aftermath, but I found that I was able to separate myself emotionally from the chaos of the US, knowing that I was going to be in a different country in June.

I did spend a bit of time communing with the lizards and bumblebees of our back garden -- I do miss them greatly.



And, it ends as it begins, with cats.



4th quarter 2020, a retrospective: Floors fixed, and plans made

 Aaaah.  4th quarter 2020.  

By October that fateful year the wildfire season had finally mostly ended, the floor was finally dry, and we all thought that Covid had petered out and life would start going to normal.

HAH!

Well, some things did finally start getting more normal.  In late September the kitchen tile got fixed relatively quickly thanks to 7 tiles we found stored in the garage from the previous owner's remodel, and the pure luck that we only needed 6.5 tiles to fill the missing spaces.  We seriously lucked out, if we hadn't had those tiles we'd have had to replace the whole kitchen floor!

October was blissfully quiet, but in November we emptied the heck out of the family room, had the whole floor replaced (by insurance, yay!), and put it all back together.  Here's the masses of cr*p that littered the living room, and the family room subfloor placed.



The big furniture had been placed outdoors while the main floor was removed and replaced, then we had an interim room with the big furniture back, but they still had the finishing around the edges to do.  Ria enjoyed the funny layout.  Then, finally, back together before the end of the month.


Other things happened that month too.  Things opened up a bit so Ria did some in-person (masked) karate, and got a 2nd stripe on her belt (she's stopped karate since we moved).  In celebration, the cats cuddled with me on the couch.

The cats also snuggled cutely at the window, and at another window our favorite tree in the world exploded in fireworks of red to celebrate the autumn.


Late October, early November, however, also triggered a change of plans.  The hell of the extended presidential election cycle descended, making me once again, as 4 years previously, unable to sleep, anxious, and having to not read/watch news to keep calm.  We'd always thought about how we wanted the kids to experience the Canadian half of their dual citizenship, but we'd figured that that could happen by going to university in Canada.  By then Jade had decided to only apply to Canadian universities, and we thought about how much easier it would have been to do those applications from within the Canadian school system.  Then I thought about how I didn't really want to go through one of these horrific presidential elections again (I'm sure there will be a few more nasty ones before our societal mayhem calms down), and if we wanted to move, it would never be convenient, so why not now while life was already the essence of inconvenient and when Ria was already going to be transitioning between 2 school districts and Jade was going to be off to Canada anyways.  So, I started researching Toronto schools to figure out what might work for Ria.  We talked to LOTS of people in Toronto, and by the end of November I had found out that the TDSB (Toronto District School Board), by being so large, was able to have several high schools with special Autism Support Programs aimed at kids at or above grade level academically, but still needing autism support. It was a better match than any of the private school options, so we talked to the Autism Program lead at one school, and started figuring out our real estate options.  The die was cast.

Then, of course, with late November came the realization that Covid wasn't going to give up, and the kids would be schooling from home for the foreseeable future, most likely until vaccines were available.  Karate went back to zoom.  The isolation really started messing with Jade's head around then, with seemingly no end in sight during the school years that were supposed to be an explosion of independence.  She stopped being comfortable with photos, so photos stopped being taken.  So began her greatest (so far) journey in life.

Then, came the holidays.  They were quiet, just us and the odd Zoom gathering, and it was calm.

Our Julbord was delicious, and for New Years Eve we played board games and ate a ridiculous amount of desserts.  (Normally we have folks over for NYE and we dump our excessive Christmas baking habits onto them, but instead we ate it all ourselves, slowly, over months ;-).)

It was great joy to have 2020 be over.  Of course, we didn't really know how intense 2021 was going to be at that time, but we enjoyed the short-lived calm.

27 March 2022

Cats of Toronto, Aker-Ruck Edition, Part the 2nd: New Windows

Apparently, the new house has different windows, with different views....





24 March 2022

Cats of Toronto, Aker-Ruck Edition, part 1. Cats in Transition

So, most of what we take pictures of at the new house is the cats, as not all of our humans are into the photographic medium at this time.  And thus, we bring you Cats of Toronto, Aker-Ruck Edition.

For part 1, we bring you Cats In Transition.

 I can move in this bag, mom                                          OOh, check out these cool carriers.


Why such a mess?                                   The carriers are nice, but what's wrong with a paper bag?

Ugh, moving is going to be a pain, I think I'm just going to hide.  Wake me when it's over.

OK, we're here.... now what?

03 March 2022

Puzzle, complete

 We finished doing the puzzle that I optimistically purchased for us to do New Years Eve.  I am now aware that 1500 pieces is not a 1 night puzzle. ;-) 



Ria wasn't too particularly jazzed about doing a puzzle, but Jade helped a lot.


13 August 2021

Hmmm.

Been thinking about writing a post, so I looked at my blog, which as of last writing covered 6 months of pandemic.  That 6 months was really bad, it was hard to read.  That leaves 11 months of pandemic life to cover, and the damn pandemic continues, thanks to the Delta variant.  I barely feel like I recognize my life from the "before days."  I think I will put off coming up with a post for a little while.  It's a little hard to think about it all.

21 September 2020

Winding summer down, 2020 continues to fulfill its goal of making us insane

Originally titled this one with the word Autumn, but that's next week (well, today as I finish this!).  I always think of the first day of school as the first day of Autumn, but they're actually 5 weeks apart, at least this year, and at least in California.  

First, picture proof that my kids are cute and their hair is getting long.  Iain went through the "awkward growing out hair" stage in late winter / early spring, and now it is thick and quite lovely.  Ria is growing her bangs out, also thick and lovely.  Me, I got my first proper haircut in over 6 months last week!  William is doing hockey play-off rules, it might get cut when he gets a Covid vaccine, i.e., when the vaccine play-offs are over.


Ria's eyes were very much unpleased with distance learning due to excessive screen time and losing their outdoor time (no biking to and from school, no outdoor class passing, etc.)  Her eye cross went from barely noticeable at her check-up last year to so extreme they'd suggest considering surgery if they didn't know how good it was last year.  Prescription is strongly up too.  So, we've got her computer glasses now, an external monitor that is big and a bit more distant, and she's actively working with the school district's vision therapist again.  Here she is with her new glasses and new school day setup.  (Freya is helping, as you can see.)


Fire season started early, and came on not like a lion, but like a herd of thundering wildebeest being chased by murder hornets and tornadoes, where the tornadoes are filled with lions.  The dry lightning storms occurred the Sunday night before the first day of school, 16 Aug, and by Wednesday the smoke started coming in.  For 3 weeks we had variable smoke levels from the nearby CZU Lightning Complex fire, and the slightly farther but still close SCU Lightning Complex fire.


Then, just for fun, the dishwasher leaked.  At 1 AM or so.  Came out Saturday morning at 8 AM to a puddle on the family room floor.  This picture is after I dried it all up.  Doesn't look that exciting, really, there's just those little wet marks at the ends of the boards on the floor.


Turns out it was plenty exciting.  7 hours of puddling on the floor allowed it to buckle the floor and leave evil dampness on the subfloor.  So a section of floor was ripped out, and some perniciously LOUD fans and dehumidifiers became part of our life.  They were supposed to stay for 4 days, but only some were removed at 5 days, the rest stayed for 10 days.  10 very long days of exquisite noise.

So, the fans were originally supposed to be removed on Iain's 17th birthday, a little present, but they weren't.  Meanwhile in the outside world the wind kicked in and some fires a bit out of the area went out of control.  The day after Iain's birthday we all woke up to apocalyptic orange skies (and most fans were removed that day).  It was an odd feeling birthday for him and for us; the air was suddenly unsafe to breathe, for nearly a week.  It felt like the world just didn't want us to ever leave our house, and meanwhile inside the house it was loud and chaotic.  Sanity level was not good.


Ah, but you say, at least the chaos inside the house was trending downwards.... Unfortunately, that was not true.  The subfloor under the tile wasn't drying, and its wetness extended further than the original tech had even measured.... So, after the skies cleared a bit, and the air got better, we got to have the tile chiseled out last Friday and got another weekend of dehumidifier time  (that's the 3rd loud weekend in a row, for those who might want to count).  Well, chiseled is probably the wrong word, since we're guessing it was the previous owner who put in the tile, as a professional probably wouldn't have covered the floor with chicken wire and put down concrete to set the tile into, and the concrete wouldn't chisel cleanly, so the circular saw had to come out, and there was much dust, along with the noise.  Joy, thine name is 2020....NOT!


In this case, though, we lucked out a bit.  It was looking like it would require 10 tiles to fix/replace the removed ones, and we only have 7 spare in the garage.  However, because of the chicken wire the moisture meter was overstating the problem and only 6 tiles will be needed to fix the kitchen floor...YAY!  Today the last dehumidifier left, and we are officially done with the "water abatement" stage of recovery.  (We already have the new dishwasher in!!)  Air is a bit bad again, but not dangerous... in the yellow.

At the same time, Iain is a SENIOR, so college applications are to be started.  Oh, but what about SAT's and ACT's you ask?  The tests scheduled for March 13 were cancelled the day before they were to occur.  April, cancelled, May?  nope.  June?  Nope.  I rescheduled the August tests we got into to Nov/Dec. (We're scheduling for both the ACT and SAT, figuring that at most we will manage one of the two.)  If we get to January unable to test, we're going to stop trying.  Everyone will understand.  Not actually stressed about it, but jumping through the hoops of trying to get them scheduled so we can say we tried our best.  Iain managed to pick schools to apply to, and we're starting the process.  All the "conveniences" of the computer age make it more complicated and cumbersome than William and I had to deal with.  Ugh, what a pain!!  The 3 of us are working together to get the grunt work done, then Iain has the important "I'm awesome" essays to write on his own.  Fortunately Canadian schools don't care about recommendation letters for undergraduate applications, so the bit where he didn't request them in the spring doesn't matter!  Hah!  Take THAT you silly over-cumbersome American college application process!

And, meanwhile, there's still a pandemic!!!!  And, since California's numbers aren't the best, the kids are 100% distance learning.  School is much better structured than it was in the spring, though, so both kids are doing OK.  We're pleased with the way our county (and state) are dealing with the situation with well defined benchmarks that have to be met before X can occur, and a basically very conservative (safety-wise) approach to reopening plans.  As one county said, though, they can put together all the best plans in the world, but if people won't stop having parties without masks and without social distancing there is nothing the county can do to fix the numbers.  We have recently in Santa Clara gone down to the "red" category from the "purple" category, so soon the county and schools can consider whether to start a limited amount of in-person schooling.  We're unlikely to see anything happen with our kids in a school until probably November, though, and even then it would certainly be only 2 days a week in limited number cohorts.  The state's new system is here:  https://covid19.ca.gov/safer-economy/



I haven't checked against anywhere in England or New Hampshire or Rhode Island yet, but in California's system Toronto is down in the middle of the orange tier.  It's nice to be able to compare and understand.   (Post-edit.... Toronto actually is going up noticeably, more like 3.6 new cases daily/100k, so they're at the top of the orange, in danger of hitting red.)

Well, I'm caught up to "live", so this is pretty much it for the recent flurry of posts.  Between the wildfires, the air quality, mild flooding in the house, and the pandemic, it is just a weird, exhausting, crazy, overwhelming time in our house.  We're chugging along, though.  AND the elliptical is finally on its way -- should arrive in San Jose this week!  There's some good news!

18 September 2020

More Spring, and How I Spent My Summer "Vacation"

So, after April, 6 weeks into our confinement, things started getting really old.  School was the opposite of ideal, there was anxiety, there were panic attacks, there was great relief about having school be pass/fail, there was no 1:1 classroom aide except me.... so the cats decided to up the ante and start peeing on things.  One cat did, that is.  So we had to get the stair landing re-carpeted (it had just gotten new carpet LAST spring!) (it took a while to get the carpet in, as due to covid restrictions they weren't allowed in our house), we had to give up on having a back door rug, or a family room rug.  Iain's bedroom door is now permanently closed (until we have the bandwidth to replace his carpet, at least), and so is ours (carpet got removed LAST spring after pee incidents, now we just need something to block the outside view - from the outside so they can't move it like they move curtains).  It took several months and multiple drug trials, but the cat is now on anti-anxiety meds and hasn't had a pee episode in months.  For a while, though, on gabapentin, she was the most drugged out stoner known to mankind.  Here she is about to spill off the table in her stoner state:


The proper anti-anxiety meds don't make her floppy like that.

There were people, kanelbullar, and sleepy cats.





Iain had some gnarly warts removed from his foot and it's taken a bit over 2 months for his foot to return to normal (I'll spare your the horror of pictures of that!).  Ria had her wisdom teeth out.  I got some fancy creams to make my fingernail finally go back to normal (will also spare you the photos on that!).  We reorganized a bunch of stuff in the house to (a) give Iain a bit more space at his desk, and (b) make space for the elliptical we bought so we can exercise in the house when we can't go out.  Ordered that in late July.  It's still not here (all those darn people with the same plan as us!).  Would have been nice to have that during this early and excessive wildfire season while we've felt even MORE trapped at home.  William got some cute t-shirts for his birthday AND a new bread machine (when the old one literally LEAPED off the counter).  And, it took 3 days of cursing cloudy skies, but we got pictures of Comet Neowise.






I think that covers the summer..... Oh, you need some more cat pictures, clearly.  Both Oreo, but both cute.

Coming up next post, fires (outside), floods (inside), and non-consentual home remodelling (re: flood).